Wednesday, November 23, 2011
The Quest for the Dress
You might recall how I was planning on having wedding dress shopping be as painless and easy as possible... HA, as if that was going to happen. I don't understand why it is so hard to find a dress that is not poofy and not over a thousand dollars - shouldn't affordable, simple dresses be a dime a dozen? Apparently not.
I've now been to all 4 bridal shops in Saskatoon and found 3 dresses I might consider buying but still not totally what I'm looking for. I've resigned myself to the fact that I might have to wear strapless or add straps onto a strapless dress because the non-strapless style I'm looking for just doesn't seem to exist, and I don't care enough about finding The Perfect Dress that I will travel out of province to look for it. The next step in this process that I'm getting sick of is look at bridesmaid dresses that can be ordered in ivory.
Megan and I were looking through a bridal magazine at hideous dress after hideous dress and all of a sudden we both saw a dress we liked - who was the designer? Of course it would turn out that the ONLY dress we liked in the entire magazine was in an ad for menswear! The one dress I like, and the bride is just a prop for the guy's tux.
So anyway I feel a little bit like a bad bride because all the other girls who are trying on dresses in the store are like WOOOOOOOOO I JUST GOT ENGAGED YESTERDAY AND I ALREADY FOUND MY DRESS AND I'M SO EXCITED TO BE TRYING ON ALL THESE DRESSESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!! and I'm just sort of like, meh, and getting slightly frustrated that every dress is a size 12 so I have no idea what it would actually look like on me if it came in my size. I'm sure the bridal consultants think I am super weird or socially inept or something because I'm not like DRESSES YAY SHOPPING YAY LOOK AT MY RING YAY YAY but what can you do. Maybe I should stop making fun of the dresses.
The truth is I do want to really like, perhaps love, my dress as I'll probably be displaying pictures of myself in it for the rest of my life, but I don't want it to be the focal point of my wedding. I don't want people to be like "you know what my favourite part of that wedding was, her DRESS" so I'm not really associating it with my wedding in the sense that it's an important part of the day, so it just feels like something I have to shop for rather than something I'm super excited to find.
I AM super excited to shop for things like a house, a stand mixer, a fancy washer and dryer, a puppy, a BBQ, and all that stuff that will actually contribute to having a fun married life. There is no doubt in my mind that when we go and make our registry that I will be as excited as all the girls in the bridal shops. Unfortunately before I can start looking for that stuff I have to find a dress.
UPDATE: I actually wrote this post on Sunday so there is a happy ending to my venting! Stay tuned for Part II coming soon!